Sometimes I put way too much time and energy and weight into what other people think of me. I have a feeling I’m not the only one.
Aspects of our culture and maybe our upbringings and even just our sheer humanness point to the lie that we have to earn our worth. For a long time, no matter what I did, I never felt good enough. I felt like I had to choose between being myself and being loved. I think, at some point, a lot of us feel this.
We learn to focus our energy into looking successful. Into having a job that makes people jealous or having lots of friends or Instagram followers. We learn that we have to act a certain way to be more likable. To dilute ourselves to please people and to filter what we say to suit the people we’re talking to.
I finally realized that people pleasing is not a form of kindness. It may prevent conflict but it also prevents us from being authentic. It blocks us from connecting with each other in meaningful ways. Instead of filtering what I say and pleasing people, I want to speak truth in love. Even hard truths. I want to be soft and share my heart and connect.
There’s a quote I read a long time ago that resonated so deeply with me I almost got it tattooed, just so I could see it as a daily reminder.
“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. To be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” (Timothy Keller.)
We’re not deserving but we are worthy. Every human is born with inherent, infinite worth. Our worth is constant and steady. It never changes. Not when we make more money or lose a job. Not when we get approval from people we care about. Or when we lose it.
We’re already deeply, entirely known by God and loved in a deeper way than our minds have the ability to grasp. This is what sets us free to be our authentic selves. To be the fullest, truest, brightest versions of who we are. We’re loved. We’re known. We’re free.
Thanks for stopping by. A little about me — I have a latte each morning and drink about 7 cups of tea a day (not exaggerating.) I live in Atlanta where I'm going to law school. I like long distance running and I love my city and I love exploring our beautiful earth. I believe in following our passions & being free.
I started this blog to document and share my favorite moments while traveling. This is a place where I process my ideas, share the aches and joys of my heart, speak truth, and shine light on the beauty I see in the world.
I've realized that what I probably love most about traveling is the same thing I love about writing — the way it connects me to myself and other people. I hope as you read my words, you feel connected to our shared humanity.
Thank you for reading. :)
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