Sometimes I put way too much time and energy and weight into what other people think of me. I have a feeling I’m not the only one.
Aspects of our culture and maybe our upbringings and even just our sheer humanness point to the lie that we have to earn our worth. For a long time, no matter what I did, I never felt good enough. I felt like I had to choose between being myself and being loved. I think, at some point, a lot of us feel this.
We learn to focus our energy into looking successful. Into having a job that makes people jealous or having lots of friends or Instagram followers. We learn that we have to act a certain way to be more likable. To dilute ourselves to please people and to filter what we say to suit the people we’re talking to.
I finally realized that people pleasing is not a form of kindness. It may prevent conflict but it also prevents us from being authentic. It blocks us from connecting with each other in meaningful ways. Instead of filtering what I say and pleasing people, I want to speak truth in love. Even hard truths. I want to be soft and share my heart and connect.
There’s a quote I read a long time ago that resonated so deeply with me I almost got it tattooed, just so I could see it as a daily reminder.
“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. To be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” (Timothy Keller.)
We’re not deserving but we are worthy. Every human is born with inherent, infinite worth. Our worth is constant and steady. It never changes. Not when we make more money or lose a job. Not when we get approval from people we care about. Or when we lose it.
We’re already deeply, entirely known by God and loved in a deeper way than our minds have the ability to grasp. This is what sets us free to be our authentic selves. To be the fullest, truest, brightest versions of who we are. We’re loved. We’re known. We’re free.
Hi! Welcome to my blog. Whether you stumbled upon this page through your friend’s friend’s Instagram or you’ve been following for a while, I’m glad you’re here. Thanks for stopping by and letting me share my life with you.
I write mostly about the places I visit and the people I meet. I love to write for the same reason I love to travel: because it teaches me a new way of seeing the world.
Other things I love: thrift shopping, sustainable fashion, big sunglasses, deep conversation, a good book, digital marketing, messy hair, planes, poetry, hot tea + long distance running.
This blog is about saying yes to the things that make you feel alive. It’s about rolling with the punches and embracing uncertainty because not everything will be smooth sailing. A life of adventure is full of challenges but I think it's worth it. Here's to saying yes to adventure, whatever that looks like for you.
Thank you so much for reading and experiencing this journey with me! :)
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